Adoption has its own rhythm through our lifetimes, depending where we are in the constellation. There’s certainly no magic ending to issues when a child turns 18; legal adulthood can look very different from the emotional and psychological realities.
In fact, as adopted people and adoptive parents get older, many new issues can emerge. Our understanding of what adoption means can change over time, as well as our lens on parenting. Our adopted children may become parents themselves, and that can raise significant new thoughts. The role of race in the case of transracial adoptions can become more pointed as our children are out in the world, and as they reflect on their childhood experiences.
I, for one, am constantly learning and growing and striving to do better, even as my children are in their 30’s and I have 3 grandchildren.
I also have the honor to co-facilitate Adoption Mosaic’s Seasoned Parents class, a 6-week program start October 16, for adoptive parents whose children are over 18. My co-facilitators are Adoption Mosaic’s founder Astrid Castro, an adoptee from Colombia, and Katie Christians, a U.S. adoptee with extensive experience in Adoption Mosaic youth groups, panels, and programs.
Katie Christians (R)
From the website:
“Need help trying to figure out how adoption plays a part in your family now that your kids are adults?
In this course, participants will:
- Reflect on why we chose adoption, and what we have learned over decades of raising children;
- Dig into the challenges of talking about race, the adoption industry, gratitude, anger, adoption fog, search, and reunion; and
- Practice talking about these adoption issues with our adult children and with others, in ways that are clear, respectful, and helpful.”
