The Devastating Loss of Michaela DePrince

Like so many others, I am terribly sad to hear that Michaela DePrince has died at the much too young age of 29.

She was a survivor of war in Sierra Leone, an adoptee to the United States, and an astonishingly talented ballet dancer. She was a role model and trailblazer.

The cause of death has not been stated by her family at this point.

A 2019 interview with Paper magazine was titled “Michaela DePrince: The Dancer Destigmatizing Mental Health.” Michaela said, “Ballet is part of who I am. I grew up not feeling good enough and thinking that no one would ever love me enough to be adopted.” She jokes, “I literally chose an art form that foster the same sort of you’re not good enough environment.”

As someone involved with the dance and adoption communities, I found her words familiar, if not chilling.

She went on to talk about her hopes of becoming a human rights lawyer or building an arts school in Sierra Leone.

She also said this: “There’s definitely more to my story than what people talk about. When I’m performing or speaking, I only have a certain amount of time to express myself. I think people see and hear my story as a whole, but can’t really understand most aspects of it or see just how important adoption is.”

Adoption can be so complicated.

Michaela’s adoptive mother, Elaine DePrince, apparently also passed away this week. Incredible sorrow for that family. May they find comfort and healing.

May she rest in power and in peace. Deep condolences to her family, friends, and all those who admired and loved her, in the adoption world, the dance world, and all around the globe.

Photo by Wikkie Hermkens

Iman, Zariyah, and Racism’s Chokehold on Beauty and Ballet

My granddaughter Zariyah was a model for a Black History Month project titled “Because of Them, We Can.” Iconic African-Americans (the Obamas, Malcolm X, Alice Walker, Myrlie Evers, Langston Hughes, many more) are quoted, and a photo of a child appears with the quote. It’s a lovely series.

IMG_7599Iman (aka David Bowie’s wife) is an astonishingly beautiful, accomplished woman. Since I am a brassy gramma, I sent the photo of Z along with a brief message to Iman on Facebook. I got a classy message back: “I’m honored beyond belief! Thank you!” I am among her 40,000 FB fans, but she wrote to me directly.  Please–let me labor under that illusion.

Today, this was posted on Iman’s page:

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We can chat about art and creative license in high fashion, about controversial ways to get attention, about the role of blackface in American history, about the scarcity of models of color on haute couture runways. It’s all tangled together.

The biggest challenge, at the end of the day and debate, is for me what it says to young girls of color about their beauty and its value to the world. Racism has beauty in a chokehold.

An example:

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Lauren Anderson was the first African-American to be named a principal in a major ballet company (Houston Ballet). That was in 1990, a mere 127 years after the Emancipation Proclamation. About 6 generations worth. What additional groundbreaking might we expect in our society in another 127 years, by 2140?

In the meantime, there are still very few black ballerinas, especially in major dance companies. Many continue told they are not “right” for classical ballet, but one wonders how clearly they are seen beyond the color of their skin.

I’d like to note and honor two other remarkable ballerinas. One is the recently deceased Maria Tallchief, considered America’s first prima ballerina and the first Native American to hold that title. The other is Michaela de Prince, a Sierrra Leone adoptee who was told as a child she couldn’t be in the Nutcracker because of her race; she’s now performing with the newly relaunched Dance Theater of Harlem.

To go full circle here, Iman Cosmetics is the 2013 Beauty Sponsor of the Dance Theater.

My granddaughter Zariyah is not yet fully aware of the power of racism in the United States today. She dances for the joy of it, and her long arms and legs are, to me, elegantly right for ballet.

IMG_7961I’m so grateful to those who’ve blazed incredible paths, at great cost, in the name of art and of what is beautiful and right.